You're pregnant! What an exciting time in your life. You have let the news out, and then....the questions start:
You know what causes that, right?
There is something about announcing a pregnancy that brings out all the questions from friends, family and strangers alike. It's a natural phenomenon that seems to happen, a lot. What is it that drives people to comment on our family make up - be it size, the genders of our kid(s) or if we are choosing to find out which gender that may be before or after their birth?
We have always been a family of finder-outers. We don't have the patience that many have, to wait until the birth of their baby to find out who was growing inside for those long 9 months. We have always been confident in our choices, although we get a lot of - "but then it isn't a surprise!". Say what? How do you figure? To us, no matter if you find out at your regular 20 week scan, earlier, later or after birth - it is always a surprise. Always. How can it not be? Sure, sometimes the surprise comes sooner - maybe in the ultrasound room, maybe at a gender reveal party or maybe just between your close family & friends - it still is information you didn't know about your growing babe you now know. Or maybe you wait and find out at the birth. Whatever route you pick, whatever works for your family - it is still a surprise. It is never okay to comment on a families choices - and it is never okay to tell them they are ruining the best surprise of their life because they are choosing to get that surprise a little sooner that the birth. Just remember the famous words of January Harshe - "you do you boo" - and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
When did you find out what gender your babe to be was?
Stay tuned for our exciting news of who our babe #4 is, in a few short weeks!
Kayla is a mom to three sons, wife, and doula. She works within the Shuswap/Okanagan Region providing mothers and their families with a whealth of knowledge and support in all things fertility, pregnancy, birth and beyond.